2020 was going to be his best year ever, and it was. Despite a pandemic and navigating a divorce, 2020 was still Dave Hollis’ best year ever. Listen as he shares how he moved through huge changes in his life, doubled down on becoming the very best parent he can be, and continued to better himself and his health. This was an amazing conversation full of fantastic insights and advice. If you’ve been experiencing some harder than usual times, this is the episode for you.
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[02:27] Welcome Dave Hollis to the show.
We’re starting it off with a hard question. Dave is answering what it has been like in his experience parenting through a pandemic. He has four children so he’s definitely had a completely new parenting challenge over the last year.
[07:39] How the pandemic actually helped in the transition with his divorce.
The additional time together to sort out the two households and a completely new way of living was extremely helpful. He’s been able to spend that needed time with his kids and really help them process through the transition.
[10:29] Learn more about Dave’s background.
Before the pandemic Dave was writing his book, speaking live, and really had a completely different life experience. Listen as he shares more about his background and the work that he has been doing in the world.
[20:05] How he has kept going as he steps out of his comfort zone.
So much of what has happened this year has been challenging and not what he wants to experience again, yet it has strengthened other aspects of his life. Dave shares that he appreciates what 2020 brought and that when it comes down to it, he’s now living his life in his purpose rather than in fear. He shares a story about a recent tattoo that he got as a sign that he’s been given his gifts and that he needs to stay present in what he can control.
[23:09] Learn how he’s changed his thoughts around planning.
For so long he was a planner. This past year has shown him the benefit of looking at the short-term instead of planning months in advance. He shares how he manages his health from a more holistic viewpoint and why those considerations have taken center stage.
[29:56] You have to walk toward your fear.
If you don’t ever face your fear then you’re not growing. Each and every hardship that you come through prepares you for the next challenge life has to throw at you. Make it a point to face your fears each and every day and you’ll continue to grow and learn. It’s important to model this behavior for your kids as well.
[33:14] Was his corporate job his dream as he grew up?
Dave is an Enneagram 3 which makes him an achiever. Climbing the corporate ladder and getting higher and higher in the ranks of entertainment fulfilled that need for achievement and his need for love. However it took away from his overall enjoyment of life.
[39:57] Everything comes back to adding value to the world.
There are three pieces that have to overlap to know something is your calling or purpose. You have to have passion, skill, and an ability to impact others around you.
[43:44] His take on a question his ex-wife got all the time that he was never asked.
His ex-wife was constantly asked about how her work would affect her kids, but despite his much more demanding corporate role, he never received that question. First, if a question is being asked of a woman and not a man, it shouldn’t be asked. Second, you had goals and dreams before you had kids. It’s not wrong to pursue them after you’ve become a parent no matter if you are a woman or a man because it shows your kids that they truly can be anything they want to be. He shares more about that in his latest book.
[48:25] Stop wasting your time living someone else’s life.
You only get one life. Stop spending time living it for those who would judge you and live it for yourself and your family. You are here for a reason. Live in that purpose.
[50:48] Dave and I chat all about books.
Listen as Dave shares his thoughts on Ride of a Lifetime and then gives us an inside look to his new book. He’s only really become a voracious reader in the last 18-months or so.
[55:55] Hear all about his new book Built Through Courage.
It comes out this October and it’s all about understanding where you are and how you can move forward into your purpose.